Of life partners and us

As beautiful as life can be, we always try to find that one thing that can make it ugly. A common complaint of people is about relationships with spouses.

Why do we always find the need to have a relationship?
For me it was the only thing I ever needed. A man to love and be loved , to stay with, to take care of and be taken care of. Then as the paint dried on the wall and I realized that it did look good in the catalog and would be loved by one and all, but it wasn't meant to look that great in reality. And with every passing year, with every passing season the color on the wall changed, grayed out at places and paler on the other. And soon enough it was time to repaint, to choose another color.

So why does one need a relationship?
For Lisa, it is something to hang on to even if it is an online relationship. It is something that her online friends would respect her for. Someone with whom she could talk once in a while and feel complete. Someone whom she wished would be by her side but still be the same person as he was when he was far away. She could end up adding this person to her list of failed relationships... a number that forever increases.
For Rick, its about settling down. He has been there and done that. He is 30+ and single but scared at he prospect of spending his life alone. Although for Vikram, one can sleep outside while still in a relationship. He also doesn't like the concept of his life partner staying with him in his home. He just wants someone to be by his side and presentable to the world at large.
For me, its companionship that matters. Being loyal is also on top of the list. Looks never really mattered much. The sense of eternal bond, the feeling of oneness is what matters to me. After many years of staying in and out of relationships I also realized that I never needed a relationship... I just needed an exclusive friend..

Relationships are heavy on the heart, friendships nurture the heart. We may have all different reasons to find a life partner or not to find one, but we all do need that one person that we can call our own, someone whom we can trust implicitly and have great sex.